RW Blog

Peacemaking and The Good Wife

By |July 27th, 2014|

Nine million people will soon be introduced to biblical peacemaking through an hour-long television show called The Good Wife.

The Good Wife is a prime time CBS legal and political drama. Its central character is a woman named Alicia Florrick […]

Cancer Is All About Relationship

By |July 20th, 2014|

I recently learned that I have stage IV cancer.

A month ago a surgeon removed my thyroid and over forty lymph nodes. Radiation treatment should begin in a few days. Then a week of isolation until the radioactive iodine leaves […]

Where Sorrow Begins

By |July 13th, 2014|

C. H. Spurgeon wrote, “Where self begins, sorrow begins.”

That’s a diagnosis that explains most of my unhappy moments.

Angry? Usually because I am not getting what I want.

Resentful? Someone didn’t treat me the way I think they should.

Self-pity? People just […]

Raising Empathetic Children

By |July 6th, 2014|

My daughter was sitting on the floor in my study crying softly. Megan had been sharing a sad story with me, and her emotions overflowed in tears.

Her two-year-old son, Andrew, was playing in his room nearby. When he heard […]

Three Examples of Empathy

By |June 28th, 2014|

(Note: this blog post has been combined with a previous post in this article, which I recommend you read instead.)

Would you like to deepen your capacity for empathy?

Then watch these three short video clips and ask God to help […]

Seven Steps to Empathy

By |June 25th, 2014|

(Note: this blog post has been combined with the next post in this article, which I recommend you read instead.)

Without empathy, it’s hard to have real relationship.

The good news is that since each of us is made in the […]

The Who, Why and How of Empathy

By |June 12th, 2014|

“What is the biblical model, motive, and method for empathy and compassion?”

That’s the question I asked last week as we began our study of these two relational qualities.

This week I’m going to let you to answer these questions for […]

The Empathy of a Dog

By |June 9th, 2014|

I recently asked my wife who demonstrates empathy more consistently: me or our dog, Dawson. Without hesitation she said, “Dawson.”

She gently added, “There are times when you show wonderful empathy. But there are other times when you seem clueless […]

Answers to the Quiz

By |June 1st, 2014|

Last week I posted an RW Quiz based on a short video clip about a woman in Thailand who was dying of cancer. I was impressed by the many insightful answers I received.

The only problem was that I had […]

Ready for an RW Quiz?

By |May 26th, 2014|

Today you can test your relational wisdom.

All you have to do is watch a three minute video clip and answer three questions.

You can keep your answers to yourself, or you can email them to me for a chance to […]

Four Ways to Defeat Hijacking

By |May 19th, 2014|

In last week’s blog, we considered a neurological/emotional process known as “hijacking.” This week we will look at four steps to defend yourself from this problem.

But first, let me illustrate the behavioral signs of hijacking with a short clip […]


By |May 12th, 2014|

Peter, James, and John were hijacked. So was Paul.

The same was true of Abraham, Sarah, Isaac, and Rachel … even David, the man after God’s own heart.

Chances are that you’ve been hijacked too. Probably within the last week.

It has […]

Look Up

By |May 4th, 2014|

“I have four hundred and twenty-two friends, yet I’m lonely.”

So starts a video clip that’s been viewed six million times in just one week—and stirred up some intense disagreement along the way.

This clip has a lot to say about […]

Seven Facts About Emotions

By |April 27th, 2014|

This three minute video clip has been viewed by over four million people. Watch it and you’ll see why. (If video screen does not appear below, click here.)

This short clip captures something that is common to all people at […]

Face to Face and No Excuses

By |April 20th, 2014|

Someone on my team had blown it. Not ethically or morally. He had simply taken too long to complete some significant tasks, which put one of our clients in an awkward position in a mediation case.

Our staff member’s attempts […]

Relational Stupidity

By |April 13th, 2014|

I’ve seen a lot of foolish behavior during my thirty-two years as a professional conciliator.

Like the man who divorced his lovely Christian wife to marry a woman who had already been married and divorced six times. When I asked […]

Learn RW Online

By |April 6th, 2014|

We are pleased to announce that both the Discovering Relational Wisdom Seminar video series and the RW Personal Study Course are now available online.

These seven video presentations provide an introduction to the foundational principles of relational wisdom. When used […]

Strike the Shepherd

By |March 30th, 2014|

The church is losing its leaders at an alarming rate. Consider these sobering statistics:

23 percent of all current pastors in the United States have been fired or forced to resign in the past.
45 percent of the pastors who were […]

Gospel Outpouring

By |March 23rd, 2014|

Relational wisdom is an outpouring of the gospel. It is one of the primary blessings unleashed through faith in Christ and therefore has the potential to transform every aspect of our lives.
To understand how good this news is, we […]

If Your Enemy is Freezing

By |March 17th, 2014|

One night in the early years of our marriage, Corlette and I had such an intense disagreement that we went to bed unreconciled. Yes, we broke the command not to let the sun go down on our anger.

As we […]