RW Movie Blog

I Am Home

Do people feel relationally safe in your home? Your church? Your business?

Is it the place they long to come to when the problems of the world seem overwhelming? Is it a haven of understanding, acceptance, and security?

It can be.

By [...]

Use Noah’s GPS

Noah beat Garmin to the punch. Abraham got the jump on TomTom. And Moses was way ahead of Magellan.

What on earth am I talking about?

Navigation systems. If it’s in your car or on your phone, you know it as [...]

Saving Mr. Banks

Disney’s newest movie, Saving Mr. Banks, provides an excellent opportunity for discussing relational wisdom and sharing the gospel of Christ.

The movie is built around the contentious relationship between Walt Disney and Pamela L. Travers, the author of the beloved [...]


Here is an easy, painless, and guaranteed way to deal with the relational challenges of the holidays (click here).

Actually, there is no such thing as an easy, painless, and guaranteed way to deal with relational challenges.

Like everything else of [...]

RW … More Than Being Nice

A few days ago, a friend asked me if relational wisdom isn’t simply “being nice.”

He’d recently read my “Serving a Barista” post, which gave him the impression that relational wisdom applies only to the easy, pleasant encounters of life.

“Nothing [...]

Here’s Looking at You Kid

You’re in for a treat today. Humphrey Bogart is providing an unforgettable example of relational wisdom. His platform is Casablanca, a movie that has consistently ranked as one of the greatest films of all time.

The movie is set in [...]

The Power of Words

Do you want to learn how to connect with people? Really connect?

To touch others heart-to-heart, life-to-life? To convince them you understand and care about them?

To move them toward actions that are right and good and pleasing to God?

Then learn [...]

Awareness Test

This is an awareness test.

It takes only 50 seconds … but it could change your life (click here or on photo).

If you missed the moon walking bear, you experienced a process known as “selective perception,” which is the [...]

The Nail

This is a test. Watch the following two minute video clip and decide which person you sympathize with the most.

Wounding and Healing

Many of us have no idea how often we wound the people around us. We don’t deliberately set out to hurt others, but because of our natural insensitivity, we frequently stomp on others’ dreams and feelings without even realizing [...]

Astonishing Love

A devastating tornado and a shocking murder. The last things any of us would ever want to experience.

And yet as the following video clip illustrates, it was in the midst of such great suffering that a family from Iowa [...]

A SOG Confession

It’s pretty hard to find a good confession in a modern movie … but here’s a great one.

This clip comes from the movie Fireproof. Kirk Cameron plays a young fireman whose marriage is falling apart due to his selfishness, [...]


Today’s movie clip is one of my favorites. It illustrates several key relational skills, including empathy, self-control, and the use of perceptive questions rather than forceful arguments.

The clip is taken from the movie, Spanglish. Its central character, Flor, is a [...]

Love Your Enemy

Today’s film clip is taken from the movie To End All Wars. Based on a book by the same title, this movie chronicles the suffering and spiritual transformation of a British soldier named Earnest Gordon.

Captured by the Japanese just [...]

The Golden Result

We all know the Golden Rule: “Do to others as you would have them do to you.”

But do you know the Golden Result? It’s a direct corollary to the Golden Rule:
“Other people will usually treat you the way [...]

Really Nice Pants

In today’s movie clip, Will Smith demonstrates the enormous benefit relational wisdom (RW) can have in the workplace.

The clip comes from the movie Pursuit of Happiness. It is based on the true story of Chris Gardner. In the weeks [...]

The Compassionate Boxer

Cinderella Man is one of my favorite movies, largely because it stars Russell Crowe, one of my favorite actors. The story is based on the life of James J. Braddock. Once a successful heavyweight boxer, Braddock was reduced to [...]

RW in the Movies

This Thursday I’m launching a new companion blog that will use short clips from popular movies to teach relational wisdom. As a prelude to the first post, I’d like to describe the classic formula for great stories and explain [...]